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I'm really wondering about kids these days

Let me know if I'm overreacting, but this is kinda how my day went, and
I'm still annoyed (beyond that, but redacting so I don't get THWACKED).

Matt let his singer's son (20 yo, basically good kid, works second
shift, not around much) move in "temporarily". He's been around about a
month, but due to dog sitting/taking care of my mom I haven't had to
deal with him much. I'll try to edit this rant some that I posted
elsewhere (can't facebook it, since his mom is a friend of mine), and
tell me, would you put up with this?

Sorry, I am STILL freaking annoyed about this, because I was told to
play nice (even though I'm the one buying groceries, helping pay bills,
etc., it's "his" house, my name isn't on the mortgage)...

This kid was either staying at home or with his stripper (not hot, trust
me) GF or something until about a month ago. He showed up & asked Matt
if he could stay in one of the spare rooms for a bit, since I'm still
unsure what happened, if he got kicked out of one place or the other,
but whatever, and Matt said yeah.

Now, like I said, this was a month or so ago, and this was supposed to
be short term, not "moving in", because I'm still remodeling the inside,
etc. The dude's days off are Monday & Tuesday, and he works second shift
anyway, so basically, he sleeps here. Never had an issue with food,
cleanliness, etc., because for the last couple weeks (the mom in Hawaii,
then taking care of her after virus, etc., haven't been here during the
week). He comes in late, sleeps, gets up, showers, leaves.

Today, I get up, know I have to mow, so skip my shower, just go to wash
my face, brush my teeth... turn around in the upstairs bathroom (my
bathroom, I mean, my stuff is everywhere), and the GF took her makeup
off with my towel. Yeppers, mascara, lipstick, everything, on my BATH
towel hanging on the rack. I guess too **** lazy to open the cabinet
RIGHT NEXT TO THE SINK to grab a washrag or hand towel.

So this starts my morning already <redacted>. I'll admit, Matt got home
late last night, so I didn't do dishes right away after cooking, left
'em in the sink, but they were all done & washed by 8:30am, still fuming
about the towel, so just clean the kitchen, scrub the counters, just
swiffer the floor because I know I'm doing drywall tomorrow. Too wet to
mow due to dew & the <redacted> crabgrass, so looking online for jobs,
posting on facebook & various other forums to annoy people, etc. Get
everything out that isn't refrigerated to make zucchini bread for him.
Flour, sugar, etc., sitting on the side counter.

So, they stagger out of bed about 11am, and apparently my groceries
(yes, I said mine. I bought **** specifically to bring here to cook) are
FFA. They use up all 7 of my eggs left (used some yesterday for
breakfast, knew I had plenty left, guess no zucchini bread!), open the
brand new jug of milk I bought yesterday (oh, you messed up & bought
skim that's still in there, she doesn't like that, so just use a ton of
mine without asking!), use up all the bread, etc.

Now, I'm beyond annoyed. It's not Matt's stuff they're <redacted> with,
it's mine. But I bite my tongue & go out to mow. I see them leave, so I
come back in after an hour or so for a smoke break. Walk into the
kitchen, they left all their <redacted> dishes there, egg all over the
stove, floor & one counter, toast crumbs everywhere, I cleaned the egg
off the floor only so I wouldn't step in it.

I go downstairs to the shower, just out of curiosity, and not only has
that <redacted> used my soap, shampoo, conditioner, she used my loofah &
razor. This AFTER I hear them talking this morning about so & so rubbing
glitter all over her, and how she still has it on her, and how gross
that place is sometimes. (You definitely don't want to read what I
posted there that I edited out).

Oh, it gets better. Now I get done mowing, and I go to grab a clean
towel out of one of the bathrooms. Ummm... no towels. Go in the
"roommate's" room, and four of them laying ON THE CARPET, still damp,
smelling like funk. The entire room smells like funk, because he has not
washed his sheets since he's been there. Oh, yeah, did I mention I even
brought a spare set of sheets that are still LAYING ON THE <redacted>
FLOOR AT THE END OF THE BED?!

So, I got to shower, throw away a loofah & razor so I don't catch
whatever it is she has been rolling in at the strip club, dry off with
hand towels, and do the <redacted> towels with Lestoil in the wash so I
can kill anything from towels laying on the floor for <insert diety>
knows how long.

Oh, yeah, they like my beer, so they've been drinking it. They went to
town this afternoon on a beer run. Think they picked me any up to
replace, or any eggs? Nope. Yeah, I posted, he's 20, his stripper GF is
over 21. So I guess he can only get booze when she buys it, and maybe
replacing is not okay with her?

Am I right to be annoyed, or because it's not "my house", I should just
let everything slide? He said he'd talk to them, but that's like him
talking to a puppy... "Awww, you did a piddle, it's okay, just don't do
it again." He's entirely too nice. I am MAD, and think I have a right
to be. Food is one thing, my toiletries are another. It's the combo of
it all that has me so mad.
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Anonymous_User Absent Member.
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Re: I'm really wondering about kids these days

Oh, yeah, since they're still here. Who wants to bet that their
leftover pizza will still be sitting on the counter where I just walked
out & it has been sitting for two hours already?
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LLL
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shaunpond Absent Member.
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Re: I'm really wondering about kids these days

Lll,

perhaps you should start cleaning your gun when they're around and
start muttering...

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Anonymous_User Absent Member.
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Re: I'm really wondering about kids these days

May I make a suggestion. Get a size twelve black boot. Place it on your
foot (which ever is dominant for you). Now use it to kick them out the door.

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Anonymous_User Absent Member.
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Re: I'm really wondering about kids these days

I feel ya there. It *is* somewhat of a gray area on the whole thing.
How long have you been living there? If it's longer than a month, I'd
say you have a right to say something, especially with all the projects
you've been doing around there, remodeling & whatnot.

Yeah they're just kids & 'don't know better', but sounds to me like
someone needs to inform them that things are not a free for all, and
they need to have respect for other people that are in the house.

Sounds like some work is in store to straighten him out, best of luck.


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Anonymous_User Absent Member.
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Re: I'm really wondering about kids these days

It's your house too - regardless of if your name is on the mortgage. Tell
Matt to do the kid a favor and kick him to the curb. My 25 yo nephew is
still living at home and will continue to do so for who knows how long
because his mom's a major league WUSS! Kid gets to go to pot conventions
(he's all for legalization) and he's a drunk. He has a DUI (which is why
he's living at home). Our mom would never have stood for that and would
have kicked us to the curb in a heart beat (okay, so she might have been
kind enough to drive us to the local shelter and drop us there).

Oh, and the kid can't take the heat when I give him grief on FB about he
needs to put the alcohol down and get a job. (This in response to some
obscene post about the party from the night before and how he's still
hungover). So now I'm the "mean" one because I told him if he came here,
he'd have 1 month to get a job or get into college, and if he wasn't going
to school he'd have a month after finding the job to get the hell out, and
while with me there'd be no booze, no drugs and no girls. He decided to
not be here.

The kid needs to fall hard, let him. He needs it. The earlier the lesson,
the easier it is to recover, and he'll thank you all in the long run.

You're not overreacting at all. You're far more patient that I would be.
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Anonymous_User Absent Member.
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Re: I'm really wondering about kids these days

Sounds like an overall, nasty and disgusting situation.
Not my call, but I wouldn't be there.


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naomi371 Absent Member.
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Re: I'm really wondering about kids these days

Stop right there. At the point where you were "told to play nice."

Who gets to say that to you?

It's gone too far. Guests (at least wretched nasty stripper-type ones)
must go, or you must. Don't waste energy or time being angry, unless
you're absolutely sure it'll get you what you want. It never worked for
me, but of course your mileage may vary.



LLL wrote:
> Let me know if I'm overreacting, but this is kinda how my day went, and
> I'm still annoyed (beyond that, but redacting so I don't get THWACKED).
>
> Matt let his singer's son (20 yo, basically good kid, works second
> shift, not around much) move in "temporarily". He's been around about a
> month, but due to dog sitting/taking care of my mom I haven't had to
> deal with him much. I'll try to edit this rant some that I posted
> elsewhere (can't facebook it, since his mom is a friend of mine), and
> tell me, would you put up with this?
>
> Sorry, I am STILL freaking annoyed about this, because I was told to
> play nice (even though I'm the one buying groceries, helping pay bills,
> etc., it's "his" house, my name isn't on the mortgage)...
>
> This kid was either staying at home or with his stripper (not hot, trust
> me) GF or something until about a month ago. He showed up & asked Matt
> if he could stay in one of the spare rooms for a bit, since I'm still
> unsure what happened, if he got kicked out of one place or the other,
> but whatever, and Matt said yeah.
>
> Now, like I said, this was a month or so ago, and this was supposed to
> be short term, not "moving in", because I'm still remodeling the inside,
> etc. The dude's days off are Monday & Tuesday, and he works second shift
> anyway, so basically, he sleeps here. Never had an issue with food,
> cleanliness, etc., because for the last couple weeks (the mom in Hawaii,
> then taking care of her after virus, etc., haven't been here during the
> week). He comes in late, sleeps, gets up, showers, leaves.
>
> Today, I get up, know I have to mow, so skip my shower, just go to wash
> my face, brush my teeth... turn around in the upstairs bathroom (my
> bathroom, I mean, my stuff is everywhere), and the GF took her makeup
> off with my towel. Yeppers, mascara, lipstick, everything, on my BATH
> towel hanging on the rack. I guess too **** lazy to open the cabinet
> RIGHT NEXT TO THE SINK to grab a washrag or hand towel.
>
> So this starts my morning already <redacted>. I'll admit, Matt got home
> late last night, so I didn't do dishes right away after cooking, left
> 'em in the sink, but they were all done & washed by 8:30am, still fuming
> about the towel, so just clean the kitchen, scrub the counters, just
> swiffer the floor because I know I'm doing drywall tomorrow. Too wet to
> mow due to dew & the <redacted> crabgrass, so looking online for jobs,
> posting on facebook & various other forums to annoy people, etc. Get
> everything out that isn't refrigerated to make zucchini bread for him.
> Flour, sugar, etc., sitting on the side counter.
>
> So, they stagger out of bed about 11am, and apparently my groceries
> (yes, I said mine. I bought **** specifically to bring here to cook) are
> FFA. They use up all 7 of my eggs left (used some yesterday for
> breakfast, knew I had plenty left, guess no zucchini bread!), open the
> brand new jug of milk I bought yesterday (oh, you messed up & bought
> skim that's still in there, she doesn't like that, so just use a ton of
> mine without asking!), use up all the bread, etc.
>
> Now, I'm beyond annoyed. It's not Matt's stuff they're <redacted> with,
> it's mine. But I bite my tongue & go out to mow. I see them leave, so I
> come back in after an hour or so for a smoke break. Walk into the
> kitchen, they left all their <redacted> dishes there, egg all over the
> stove, floor & one counter, toast crumbs everywhere, I cleaned the egg
> off the floor only so I wouldn't step in it.
>
> I go downstairs to the shower, just out of curiosity, and not only has
> that <redacted> used my soap, shampoo, conditioner, she used my loofah &
> razor. This AFTER I hear them talking this morning about so & so rubbing
> glitter all over her, and how she still has it on her, and how gross
> that place is sometimes. (You definitely don't want to read what I
> posted there that I edited out).
>
> Oh, it gets better. Now I get done mowing, and I go to grab a clean
> towel out of one of the bathrooms. Ummm... no towels. Go in the
> "roommate's" room, and four of them laying ON THE CARPET, still damp,
> smelling like funk. The entire room smells like funk, because he has not
> washed his sheets since he's been there. Oh, yeah, did I mention I even
> brought a spare set of sheets that are still LAYING ON THE <redacted>
> FLOOR AT THE END OF THE BED?!
>
> So, I got to shower, throw away a loofah & razor so I don't catch
> whatever it is she has been rolling in at the strip club, dry off with
> hand towels, and do the <redacted> towels with Lestoil in the wash so I
> can kill anything from towels laying on the floor for <insert diety>
> knows how long.
>
> Oh, yeah, they like my beer, so they've been drinking it. They went to
> town this afternoon on a beer run. Think they picked me any up to
> replace, or any eggs? Nope. Yeah, I posted, he's 20, his stripper GF is
> over 21. So I guess he can only get booze when she buys it, and maybe
> replacing is not okay with her?
>
> Am I right to be annoyed, or because it's not "my house", I should just
> let everything slide? He said he'd talk to them, but that's like him
> talking to a puppy... "Awww, you did a piddle, it's okay, just don't do
> it again." He's entirely too nice. I am MAD, and think I have a right
> to be. Food is one thing, my toiletries are another. It's the combo of
> it all that has me so mad.

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Re: I'm really wondering about kids these days

On Tue, 24 Aug 2010 04:47:27 +0000, LLL wrote:

> Food is one thing, my toiletries are another. It's the combo of it all
> that has me so mad.


Present the two of them with a bill for the things they took and expect
payment from them - and with the bill, explain that it's not acceptable
to just use your things without asking first. Same for the beer, and you
might even go a step further and explain that the beer is completely off-
limits because he's underage, and since you're the ranking adult, you get
to make the rules because you would be held responsible for his underage
drinking.

Jim
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Jim Henderson, CNA6, CDE, CNI, LPIC-1, CLA10, CLP10
Novell Technical Training
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Anonymous_User Absent Member.
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Re: I'm really wondering about kids these days

Great point Jim!

>>> Jim Henderson<Jim.Henderson@SysOps.NSC> 8/24/2010 12:28 PM >>>

On Tue, 24 Aug 2010 04:47:27 +0000, LLL wrote:

> Food is one thing, my toiletries are another. It's the combo of it all
> that has me so mad.


Present the two of them with a bill for the things they took and expect
payment from them ‑ and with the bill, explain that it's not acceptable
to just use your things without asking first. Same for the beer, and you
might even go a step further and explain that the beer is completely
off‑
limits because he's underage, and since you're the ranking adult, you get
to make the rules because you would be held responsible for his underage
drinking.

Jim
‑‑
Jim Henderson, CNA6, CDE, CNI, LPIC‑1, CLA10, CLP10
Novell Technical Training


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adrockk Contributor.
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Re: I'm really wondering about kids these days

Mary Matthews wrote:

> The kid needs to fall hard, let him. He needs it. The earlier the
> lesson, the easier it is to recover, and he'll thank you all in the
> long run.


Ahh, wise words from a wise lady. Unfortunately, that sentiment is very
rare; children are coddled beyond belief anymore, and they grow up with
the sense of entitlement described in previous posts.
A little bit of tough love, and lessons learned on their own, goes a
long way.

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Anonymous_User Absent Member.
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Re: I'm really wondering about kids these days

Which is why my sister has her 25 yo still living with her. And why my
niece wants to come back to live with us. Odd how that works. 🙂

>>> Adam Gabriel<adrockk@no-mx.forums.novell.com> 8/25/2010 2:40 PM >>>

Mary Matthews wrote:

> The kid needs to fall hard, let him. He needs it. The earlier the
> lesson, the easier it is to recover, and he'll thank you all in the
> long run.


Ahh, wise words from a wise lady. Unfortunately, that sentiment is very
rare; children are coddled beyond belief anymore, and they grow up with
the sense of entitlement described in previous posts.
A little bit of tough love, and lessons learned on their own, goes a
long way.


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Anonymous_User Absent Member.
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Re: I'm really wondering about kids these days

Thanks to all that replied, I kinda read, and was still so annoyed that
he wouldn't confront the kid in front of her... and would only half a**
listen to me. As usual, the fact there's earwigs in the towels laying
on the floor, the fact the carpet would be ruined, "it's not my house."
Well, then I'm not here anymore. I won't put up with filth.

Basically, he talked to the kid, and told him that he needs to pay for
groceries (don't think that has happened), buy his own soap (think that
happened), and the kid denied that his stripper GF was using my stuff.
Even though I had proof.

Has caused a rift, so we'll see how it goes.

Really need some laptop help tomorrow, BTW, will post the details in the
morning, not Novell related, so I hope it's okay?

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LLL
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Re: I'm really wondering about kids these days

LLL <nettie70no@spamgmail.com> wrote in news:sY0fo.60170$N74.317
@kovat.provo.novell.com:

> Thanks to all that replied, I kinda read, and was still so annoyed that
> he wouldn't confront the kid in front of her... and would only half a**
> listen to me.


As usual, the fact there's earwigs in the towels laying
> on the floor, the fact the carpet would be ruined, "it's not my house."
> Well, then I'm not here anymore. I won't put up with filth.


Yuk, nor should you.

>
> Basically, he talked to the kid, and told him that he needs to pay for
> groceries (don't think that has happened), buy his own soap (think that
> happened), and the kid denied that his stripper GF was using my stuff.
> Even though I had proof.


At least there was communication.

>
> Has caused a rift, so we'll see how it goes.
>
> Really need some laptop help tomorrow, BTW, will post the details in the
> morning, not Novell related, so I hope it's okay?
>


Yeah, non Novell support is fine for a while. It gets quickly grey over
things like "how can i migrate from so and so" 🙂 and thwackable on "How
can I make My netware login client 32 work with this os"

Basic Spyware etc stuff seems to be supported since it is for the best
interest of all parties. Logic seems to be mostly guiding... 🙂



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Ciao, Dave
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